How to Find Peace in Loneliness: 3 Questions for Self-reflection
To start the first blog of “Drip Train Life,” I didn’t know where to start, but loneliness kept coming up. It’s what I’ve been going through ever since the pandemic. Yet, even with the announcement of the pandemic officially being over and I feel less isolated physically, I still catch myself feeling the same intense feelings of being alone.
During the time where the world shut down, many weren’t working, schools were closed, we suddenly had all the time to deal with ourselves—including everything we bottled up inside. For some, life easily moved on, some created businesses, worked on hobbies even; for others like myself, my perspective shifted and I zoomed into my inner world, pains, trauma, grief that I never handled, and began to cleanse from the inside out.
I write this post in the hopes to encourage others that may have felt the same way as I have. Because, often, when I felt an intense loneliness, it occurred when I can be surrounded by people—smiling, but I still unable to ignore the nagging sense of feeling alone. So, this is for all the people that don’t talk about the things that they bottle up inside themselves, and don’t know how to or don’t want to. That way of being, however, only enlarges the overall feeling of loneliness.
So what are you avoiding? What are those thoughts you run away from by turning on the tv at night or endlessly scrolling on social media? Why aren’t you able to turn off the screen in front of you? Why can’t you find peace in silence?
Although, staying busy with work, hobbies, loved ones or staying focused on your tv or phone screen feeds the desire for connection, it is only a bandaid solution. The things you do to distract your mind doesn’t solve the root of the issue and leaves you in a mindless cycle of feeling alone, getting your dose of connection through superficial means and never fulfilling your true need for inner peace. To reach that peace in your mind is to dig through the clutter in your heart and mind and resolve all the things that may be painful or triggering to you.
3 questions for self-reflection to find inner peace:
1. What problems or thoughts keep repeating in my mind?
2. What negative thoughts are stopping me from getting through this problem?
3. Am I able to forgive myself and anyone else that’s caused this problem?
Finding peace doesn’t mean avoiding pain—it means working through it. By reflecting on these questions, you can begin to clear mental clutter and uncover emotional triggers. True inner healing is possible to achieve on your own with intentional reflection. It is, however, highly beneficial to find the right support, whether it be a licensed therapist, counselor, or a figure in your community who has already achieved an inner peace.
5 steps to overcome loneliness through training:
1. Self-awareness
2. Emotional regulation
3. Build resilience
4. Learn self-compassion
5. Seeking support
*click on each topic to learn more*
Physical training (aka exercise) isn’t just about the body—it’s a path to mental and emotional awareness. It teaches you how many times you can get back up from failing, how hard you’re able to push yourself, and if your truly committed to the things you say you are. You learn more about your mental and emotional capacity. And it can be the gateway into overcome emotional hurdles and triggers both mentally and physiologically. To learn more about how training can impact your physiology to heal your mind, visit Drip Training.
About the Author:
COACH DEE | CERTIFIED PERSONAL TRAINER ACE—CPT, PPSC, TIWL
Deborah Park, known as Coach Dee, is the owner of Drip Training LLC and an ACE Certified Personal Trainer and Health Coach. With a background in architecture and kinesiology from the University of Virginia, she has extensive experience in personal training and athletic coaching in a clinical (physical therapy) setting. Coach Dee combines her scientific knowledge with years of hands-on experience to create programs that empower clients to regain control over their bodies and minds.
Her journey into personal training was deeply influenced by her personal struggles, including recovering from a life-changing car accident that led to PTSD and pain from scoliosis. This experience gave her a unique understanding of the connection between mental health and physical well-being. Coach Dee is committed to helping clients develop resilience, build strength, and rediscover their confidence—no matter the challenges they face.
